How been into the situation or maybe similar to the situation above? How many times have we heard things like "I've helped him a lot and he is not grateful at all." or "I was there for her when she needed me and yet she does not show any gratitude." or "What, there's no thank you?" or "He's not grateful for the money I gave him!" ? I'm sure you've heard it a lot.

I guess maybe people don't feel grateful of what he or she has in their lives. To me, being grateful is important in life. Personally, I think that many people don't really understand what gratitude really is.

We have no way of knowing the gratitude that the receiver feels in these situations, but I can tell you this much, if you are making statements like the ones above, you are not giving freely or with an open heart. Some people have a hard time expressing gratitude outwardly. Sometimes all you will receive in return is a simple thank you when inside the recipient of your good deed is welling up and ready to burst into tears of gratitude.

So, what is gratitude?

Gratitude is appreciation of someone who has done something desirable, helped us, and done a good deed. Giving thanks to somebody gives them a good feeling of being appreciated.

There is no need to wait until somebody does something that we want for us in order to say thank you. The word, "thank you", can be used every day, to express gratitude for the wonderful world that illuminates our morning with beautiful rays of sun, gratitude for our loving and supportive family, and so on. Expressing gratitude calms the emotions. Expressing gratitude brings us into harmony and is good for the heart and soul. Expressing gratitude opens many doors to happiness, serenity and good health. Sometimes we give thanks in our heart very quietly.

Gratitude is one of the more important ingredients for successfully using the Law of Attraction. Before the law of attraction can work, you need to be grateful of your present condition. Being truly grateful for what is already present in your life will automatically and effortlessly attract more good into your life. As more of your thoughts and words become positive, you'll start attracting more positive people and circumstances.

Try to be grateful for even the difficult and challenging situations that arise in your life. It is often through these situations that we experience the most profound spiritual and emotional growth. Forget the past, appreciate your present condition and work on changing for the better. Being grateful takes no more energy than feeling ungrateful. So why feel ungrateful? You get a far better result, because the universe is going to give you whatever your desires are and life will be wonderful.

The effective way to feel a sense of gratitude is to change our focus towards the positive things around us that are already taking place in our lives. Keeping your attitude positive and appreciative will not only help to avoid attracting more of difficult or challenging situations into your life, it will also create a field of positive energy that will attract more of what you do want.

People who are already successful using the power of law of attraction are seldom negative, temperamental or resentful. In fact they are the complete opposite and always want to share their successes and guide you through the same path. They are not selfish or arrogant because they know the law resent that in them. You can see them on television today. These successful people promote the value of the law of attraction to help people all around d the world because they know that by helping and sharing, they also get abundance.

What a wonderful way to live when all you do is being grateful and help people. Should not everyone be like this? If everyone knows this law and practices it, we can eliminate war, hunger and poverty, and this world will be a great place to live, much like what is was intended to be when it was first created.

Lastly I would like to say, be grateful of what you have now. As you begin to think about all the things in your life you are grateful for, you will be amazed at the never ending thoughts that come back to you of more things to be grateful for.

A positive mental attitude is a ‘must’ for all who wish to make life pay off on their own terms. Nothing great was ever achieved without a positive mental attitude.

Recognize that your mental attitude is the one and only thing over which you, and you alone, have complete control, and exercise the privilege of taking possession of and directing your mind with a positive mental attitude.

Realize, and prove to your own satisfaction, that every adversity, failure, defeat, sorrow and unpleasant circumstance, whether of your own making or otherwise, carries with it the seed of an equivalent benefit which may be transmuted into a blessing of great proportions.

Learn to close the door of your mind on all the failures and unpleasant circumstances of the past, and clear you mind so that it can operate in a positive mental attitude.

Find out what you want most in life and begin getting it, right where you now stand, by helping others to acquire similar benefits, thus putting into action that magic success principle: the habit of going the extra mile.

Select the person who, in your opinion, is the finest person in all the world, past or present, and make that person your pacemaker for the remainder of your life, emulating him or her in every possible way.

Determine how great a supply of material riches you require, set up a plan for acquiring it, and then adopt the principle of not too much, not too little by which to govern your future ambition for material things. Greed for an over-abundance of material things has destroyed more people than any other cause.

Form the habit of saying or doing something every day which will make another person, or persons feel better. You can do this by a phone call, a kind word in passing, dropping a postal card, or by doing some other kindness for another. A good inspirational book placed in the hand of one who needs it could, for example, work wonders in the life of that person.

Source: PMA Science of Success. Pg. 225.

I have found that sometimes the subtle difference in our attitude, which of course can make a major difference in our future, can be as simple as the language we use. The difference in even how you talk to yourself or others. Consciously making a decision to quit saying what you don't want and to start saying what you do want. I call that faith. Believing the best, hoping for the best and moving toward the best.

A few examples could be, instead of saying "What if somebody doesn't respond" you start saying, "What if they do respond?" Instead of saying "What if someone says no?" You say, "What if they say yes?" Instead of "What if they start and quit?" say, "What if they start and stay?" or "What if it doesn't work out?" You say, "What if it does work out?" and the list goes on and on.

I found that when you start thinking and saying what you really want then your mind automatically shifts and pulls you in that direction. And sometimes it can be that simple, just a little twist in vocabulary that illustrates your attitude and philosophy.

Our language can also affect how others perform and behave around us. A teenager says to a parent, "I need $10." And if the parents learn to say, "No comprende. That kind of language doesn't work here. We've got plenty of money, but that's not how you get $10." Then you teach your teenager how to ask, "How can I earn $10?"

That is the magic of words. There is plenty of money here. There is money for everybody, but you just have to learn the magic words to get them. For everything you could possibly want. If you just learn the philosophy. How could I earn $10? Because you can't go to the soil and say, "Give me a harvest." You know the soil smiles and says, "Who is this clown that brings me his need and brings me no seed." And if you said to the soil, "I've got this seed and if I planted it, would you work while I sleep?" And the soil says, "No problem. Give me the seed. Go to sleep and I'll be working while you're sleeping."

If you just understand these simple principles, teaching them to a teenager (or adult) is sometimes just a matter of language. It's like an investment account instead of a savings account. Simple language, but so important. It is easy to stumble through almost a lifetime and not learn some of these simplicities. Then you have to put up with all the lack and all the challenges that don't work out simply from not reading the book, not listening to the tape, not sitting in the class, not studying your language and not being willing to search so you can then find.

But here is the great news. You can start this process anytime. For me it was at age 25. At 25 I'm broke. Six years later I'm a millionaire. Somebody says, "What kind of revolution, what kind of change, what kind of thinking, what kind of magic had to happen? Was it you?" And I say, "No. Any person, any six years, 36 to 42, 50 to 56. Whatever six years; whatever few years you go on an intensive, accelerated personal development curve, learning curve, application curve, and learning the disciplines. Now, it might not take the same amount of time, but I'm telling you the same changes and the same rewards in some different fashion are available for those who pay that six year price. And you might find that whether it's in the beginning to help get you started, or in the middle to keep you on track, that your language can have a great impact on your attitude, actions and results.

To Your Success,

Jim Rohn

When I was a kid, every once in a while my parents would back my brother, Larry, and I up to a doorframe, lay a ruler across our heads, and mark a line with a pencil to chart our growth. They would then write the date next to it. It was always exciting to see how much I'd grown since my last measurement.

If only measuring our effectiveness as a leader was so easy. Why is it so hard to get a clear picture of our own strengths and weaknesses?

Self evaluation means:

* Being willing to critique myself.

* Asking for and accepting honest feedback from those who can most accurately assess our leadership-those who follow us.

* Exercising self-discipline.

This last point is perhaps the hardest. I define self-control, in the beginning of life, as the choice of achieving what I really want by doing things I really don't want to do. Once this becomes a habit, discipline becomes the choice of achieving what I really want by doing the very things I now want to do! I really believe that a disciplined life becomes a joy – but only after we have worked hard to practice it.

All great leaders have understood that their number one responsibility is cultivating their own discipline and personal growth. Those who cannot lead themselves cannot lead others.

Here's what I call the START plan for becoming a disciplined leader:

* START ON YOURSELF - We'd all rather focus on changing everyone else to conform to us. The only problem with that is we end up with an organization full of people who reflect our weaknesses!

* START EARLY - I'm grateful for parents who taught me the value of a disciplined lifestyle early on.

* START SMALL - A simple plan will more likely bear fruit than anything elaborate will. Remember the value of small things, consistently practiced over time, in transforming a life.

* START NOW - The will to prepare is more important than the will to succeed. The dream to succeed, apart from the will to prepare, is simply wishful thinking.

* START ORGANIZED - Those who take time to organize have a special power. Organizational skills allow for the possibility of gaining stamina and momentum as your successes build. You gain a reputation as the person who always follows through.

Now that you've started down the road of self-evaluation, receiving constructive criticism, and self-discipline, you're ready to determine where you are as an effective leader.

-- Dr. John C. Maxwell

Hi everyone.

The Law of Attraction does not filter out the information we provide. It does not decide for us. We decide where we want to focus our energy and attention. If we focus our attention on something, it will simply respond with more of it.

It is very important to focus on what you do want instead what you don't want. State your desires in a positive way. Your mind works in pictures. If you say, "I don't want to be mad" you are creating the picture and the vibration of being 'mad'. You must focus on the opposite of what you don't want. So, the opposite of "I don't want to be mad" is "I want to be more loving and accepting of the way things are."

You need to avoid sending mixed signals because they will hold back your ability to attract and manifest in a clear and a powerful way. When you are 'against' something, you are actually recreating it. You are creating more of the very thing that you want to eliminate. For example: the word 'antiwar'. The operative word here is 'war' and that is exactly what you will get more of. Instead of using the word 'antiwar', a better choice of words is 'propeace'.

Why 'propeace'? It is because the universe will receive the vibration of 'peace' and respond accordingly. As you all know, currently we are at war with terrorists or in other words war on terrorism. The war on terrorism has created more terrorism. Therefore violence attracts violence but so does love. Love attracts more love.

Be aware that negativity can be very insidious. It sneak into our lives especially through the media. We have becom immune to our daily news from the media on war, crime, violence and corruption. Do not pay attention, do not focus, do not talk about it. Focus only on what you want to attract more of.

Not only that. Most of us have a tendency to say or think things in a negative way. Try avoiding the use of negative language. Every single thought you have and every word you speak, sends a message to the universe.

Try replacing negative messaged with positive ones. Let me give you some examples:

• Instead of thinking 'I don't want to be late, think 'I want to be on time'
• Instead of thinking 'I don't want to forget', think 'I want to remember'
• Instead of thinking 'I can't....', think 'I am beginning to....'
• Instead of saying 'Don't slam the door', say 'Please close the door gently'
• Instead of saying 'Stop making so much noise', say 'Please be a little more quiet'

Lets think for a moment. If you tell someone "Don't think of a blue elephant", what will appear in your mind? Naturally, you envision a blue elephant. Avoid focusing on what you don't want, stay focused on those you do want.

Think about how much time we typically spend each day talking about our problems and focusing on what's wrong with our lives. Start thinking and speaking in a more positive way. Start focusing on what is right in your life. Start paying attention to where your attention is going.

Remember, you are always attracting something. Stop attracting what you do not want and start attracting what you do want. Its ok to become aware or even to take note of what you do not want. Use it as an initial step of deciding what you do want. Think about what you don't want to help identify what it is that you do want. This will tell you what it is you rather have and help provide you with some clarity. In other words, if you're thinking or about to think of the things you don't want, think it for while and then redirect your focus back to something positive which is to the things you want.

Focus on the good within yourself, within others and the beauty in life. Most important, think positive and focus on the things you want.

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Saiful Zaman Dzulkifly is an avid blogger, hotelier, mentor and personal development coach with humble, fun-loving and laid back personality who inspires & motivates individuals to achieve their true potential in personal growth.

Do you understand the power of be do have? You have to “Be” the right kind of person first, then you must “Do” the right things before you can expect to “Have” the things in life that really matter. It pretty simple – Be, Do, Have.

To put it in another way, it comes back to the principle of being the person you want to be and then you do what that person would do, to have what they would have. The Be Do Have starts with your thoughts. Your thoughts are constantly creating your beliefs. When you think you can or can't do something, you affirm it in your action.

Keeping it simple pays huge dividends in today’s world. With so many things to remember and keep track of, it just makes sense to boil the complexity down to a few simple truths.

What are you going to do today to be the right kind of person? What specific character quality or skill are you going to work on? What are you going to listen to or read? Who are you going to spend time with that will help you “Be-come” the right kind of person?

The doing is the action based your beliefs about yourself. Then, of course, we manifest or have what we think we can have. Being is the acting of behaving in a way that resonates with our future self...whether that future self is one month from now or five years. We're behaving as if we've already achieved the goal of our future self.

Important: A small space of time of choosing to "be that person" and actually taking the action of doing as that person.

What actions are you going to do today so that you can expect to have the things that matter? Do is a great word because it is all about action. Being the right kind of person is essential, but until you take action, until you do, you are not impacting the world around you in a positive way. Don’t let the doing in your life happen by accident; instead, plan purpose in your doing.

So, you're always faced in a choice...Am I being the person I said I'm being?

It happens in that small space of time when what we say we want and then faced with the choice of moving toward it or ignoring what we just said we wanted, is moving us toward our goal or away from it.

Take for instance, goal setting. Too often when we set goals, we are setting the have part of the equation, then doing the work of getting to the goal without ever making the effort to be anything. There's a math lesson, any math person will tell you that there is a definite order to life. A + B = C, and if you get it out of that order, even the simplest of ideas can get overwhelmingly confusing. So this equation must begin with "be" not "do" or "have."

For example, people set a goal of meeting the right person. That is what they want to have. So they begin doing the things to get to that goal. They go to bars, they go to work, they go to parties, and they go to gatherings with the intention of acquiring what they do not have, a partner.

Let’s look at another example, if I decide to be a singer; I start thinking and moving through life as a great singer. The actions I take are based on what I think about being a great singer. I practice and I put myself out there as a singer. I start to have results through my being and doing. People start asking to me sing at their wedding, clubs, recording company interested having me as an artiste and a band wants to record with me. I put out the vibration that I am a great singer and move that way in my life.

It sounds so simple. But it's the simple-sounding things that are often the most difficult to actually do. I see this turmoil in teenagers a lot and that includes some adults as well. They think that their identity is created by who they are with, what they wear, what their outward appearance is. The reality, however, is that identity is based on who you are.

You have to be before you can do, and you have to do before you can have. If you don't, nothing you ever get will be enough. And if you do, whatever you have will be plenty. With this in mind, find some time today to fit a little "being" time into your "to-do" list. It may just turn out to be the best time investment you could ever make.

Someone that is successful does not wait until the results show! A successful person must be a person that moves through his/her day as a success. Make the decisions a successful person would make! A successful person wouldn’t make his/her decisions based on money, they make their decision based on their goals!

Be that person!

Use Be Do Have to create the success you are looking for!

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Follow Saiful with his self journal and his personal development articles. You’ll find articles helpful in transforming yourself in the area of personal growth. Visit Saiful’s blog athttp://www.saifulzamandzulkifly-blog.com. Saiful can be reach via email at saifulzaman.dzulkifly@gmail.com.

Saiful Zaman Dzulkifly is an avid blogger, hotelier, mentor and personal development coach with humble, fun-loving and laid back personality who inspires & motivates individuals to achieve their true potential in personal growth.

A positive mental attitude is the habit of keeping the mind busily engaged in connection with the circumstances and things one desires in life, and off then things one does not desire. The majority of people go all the way through life with their mental attitudes dominated by fears and anxieties and worries over circumstances which somehow have a way of making their appearance sooner or later. And the strange part of this truth is that these people often blame other people for the misfortunes they have thus brought upon themselves by their negative mental attitudes.

The mind has a definite way of clothing one’s thoughts in appropriate physical equivalents. Think in terms of poverty and you will live in poverty. Think in terms of opulence and you will attract opulence. Through the eternal law of harmonious attraction one’s thoughts always clothe themselves in material things appropriate unto their nature.

A positive mental attitude is the habit of looking upon all unpleasant circumstances with which one meets as merely opportunities for one to test his capacity to rise above them by searching for the “seed of an equivalent benefit” and putting it to work.

A positive mental attitude is the habit of evaluating all problems, and distinguishing the difference between those one can master and those one cannot control. The person with a positive mental attitude endeavors to solve the problems he can control, and so relates himself to those he cannot control that they do not influence his mental attitude from positive to negative.

Source: You Can Work Your Own Miracles.

Napoleon Hill. Ballantine Book. 1971. Pg. 21.

Hi everyone.

Have you heard a phrase ‘talk the talk and walk the walk’ or a saying “if you’re going to talk the talk, you’ve got to walk the walk” or old sayings like “actions speak louder than words” and “practice what you preach.”? I bet you do. Nowadays it has been condensed to ‘walk the talk’ which makes a sort of sense (act on your speech).

Have you ever experience a situation where when people say talk about something they want to do but end up not doing anything? I'm sure you do. In fact I'm pretty sure most of you have experience in listening to arrogant friends or colleagues or clients boasting they are good at something or claiming they could do something good. In the end, nothing happened and you get dissappointed.

Talk is cheap. It is very easy to say you will do something but it is another story entirely to take action on your words. Almost all of us have been guilty of saying we will do something but not backing up our words with concrete action. To be any kind of success in life we need to either do what we say we will do or simply do what we have to do and say nothing at all.

Nothing is more frustrating than dealing with someone who does not do what they say they will do. If you tell someone you will call them, make sure you call them. If you say you will meet someone at a certain time, meet them as planned or if you cannot make it, let them know in advance that you cannot meet them at that time and arrange another more suitable time.

It probably goes without saying that successful people only become successful by taking action to achieve their goals. You will never be a success in any area of your life if you say you will do something but then not back up your words with action. Action equals achievement in all languages. Words without action are only meaningless words.

Although there is certainly no need to tell others what you plan to do, since the only thing that matters anyway is your actions but if you do say you will do something, you should always do exactly what you say. The fastest way to build a bad reputation is by talking with no action. You will be seen as not trustworthy and most definitely unreliable. People who do what they say on the other hand build a solid reputation as being reliable and trustworthy.

Your personality and attitude, feelings about yourself and how society views you all come down to the actions you take in life. Not by the words you speak. Not everyone will agree with each and every action you take but people will always respect you for doing what you say you will do. If you feel the need to say it make sure you do it.

Its best to build a good reputation and get respected. Remember this; like attracts like. If you say or do something positive, nice and good; you will attract other people's trust and respect which is a positive thing. You are a product of all of the thoughts and feelings. The thoughts you think and feelings you feel will determine your actions.

It is important that you learn to think, say and act / do in a positive way. Your actions reacts to your thoughts.

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Saiful Zaman Dzulkifly is an avid blogger, hotelier, mentor and personal development coach with humble, fun-loving and laid back personality who inspires & motivates individuals to achieve their true potential in personal growth.

Hi everyone.

Recently I watched a very inspiring video sent by a friend. It was so heart wrenching and yet motivational. I cried. I realized it kept me motivated to do I want in life.

Because of that, I’ve decided to compile a list of all the wonderful motivational video clips that I can find and hope they’ll inspire you just like how they’ve motivated me. Live your life to the fullest. Regardless of whatever odds you may face, be absolutely grateful for everything around you.

Born with no arms or legs, Nick Vujicic gives an inspiring testimony about overcoming circumstances in one's life. He also talks about how he changed from a man with no limbs to a man with no limits. Very inspirational!

Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

An adopted child, 5 year old Ye Eun has never taken any piano lessons. But she could play any tune after listening to it once. Yes, once! That feat is already nothing short of amazing. What’s even more remarkable is, little Ye Eun is blind from birth. Watch her touching performance as she brandish her gift in front of a popular Korean variety show audience.

The Dick & Rick Hoyt team has totally changed my perception of father and son bonding. Son, Rick suffered from birth complications and can’t walk or talk since he was born. Despite that, he and his dad have completed various seemingly superhuman marathons or triathlons together - with a combination of 26.2 miles acres of running, 112 miles of bicycling and 2.4 miles of swimming. They also surmounted various mountains and treks across America. This showcased a TV interview and excerpt of one of their inspiring conquests.

Who says one can’t take care of a baby, own a home based business, type on the keyboard, drive a car just because she’s got no arms? Barbara’s feat really made me embarrassed. I’ve never even changed a diaper with my hands and she did it in a jiffy with her feet! Kudos, Barbara. Kudos.

Patrick Henry Hughes has always been very talented in music. This time he has decided to join a marching band. The only issue? Patrick’s blind and paralyzed from waist down. Watch this to see how Patrick did it, with the help of his Dad. I particularly loved this part of his interview in the motivational videos, “God made me blind and unable to walk. Big Deal. He gave me the ability to, the musical gifts I have and the great opportunity to meet new people…” Now, regardless of which faith we belong to, how many people can steadfastly appreciate every part of his being like Patrick did? Despite such adversities?

The fact is, many people want to. But are they able to put in that incredible action like what these 2 kids did? When you listen to their success stories, you’ll see what I meant by incredible action.

High school bullying is a phenomenon in many countries. This 15 minute excerpt of the Emmy award winning documentary showcases how this US based non profit organization transformed the lives of many teens. For the first 5 minutes of the clip, this seemed like any other documentary I’ve seen. It was only during that “cross that line” exercise that I started to sit up. Despite the diversity of each teenager, all of them - the bullies and the bullied - suffered some kind of insecurities. I guess that’s when the teens began to see they’re not alone. I’m moved. Are you?

A light hearted promotional ad in India about how one small boy’s initiative sparked off a team effort to remove a tree (that’s causing a traffic jam). Though simple, the message is very strong : Unity across diversity. Oh yeah, I love that upbeat song too.

Rocky have decided come out of retirement to fight the younger, stronger heavyweight champ Mason Dixon. One day, his estranged son - whose relationship with Rocky was strained because he thought he was hired in his last job due to his last name - came to his restaurant to look him up. He wanted his father to withdraw from the competition. Rocky gave him an incredibly good wake up call. When I watched this in the cinema, I was so encouraged that I shed tears of inspiration. Yes, it was that good.

Based on a true story, Chris Gardener is a self made millionaire, motivational speaker and philanthropist who was once forced to be homeless while he was doing an internship in a stock brokerage firm. This trailer video showed some of the many inspiring scenes - from his insistence to go to the internship interview even when he was just hit by a car, assurance to provide his son a better life, to his awesome father-&-son speech :“Don’t ever let somebody tell you you can’t do something. Not even me, alright?”. A good watch for all parents out there.